Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Advice of Swami Vivekananda

(Letter of Swami Vivekananda )
{... " It is not the building that makes the home, but it is the wife that makes it, " says a Sanskrit poet, and how true it is ! The roof that affords you shelter from heat and cold and rain is not to be judged by the pillars that support it- the finest Corinthian columns though they be- but by the real spirit-pillar who is the center, the real support of the home- the woman (Letter of Swami Vivekananda: pg 75) 
य़ा श्रीः स्वयं सुक्रितिनाम भवनेषु - 
" Who is the Goddess of Fortune in the families of meritorious." 
यत्र नार्यस्तु पूज्यन्ते रमन्ते तत्र देवताः
" The gods are pleased where the women are held in esteem- says the old Manu. 
त्वं स्त्री त्वं पुमानसि त्वं कुमार उत वा कुमारी - 
" Thou art the women, Thou art the man. Thou art the boy and the girl as well " (Shvetashvatar Upnishad )
सर्वशास्त्र पुरानेषु व्यासस्य वचनं ध्रुवं |
परोपकार अस्तु पुण्याय पापाय परपीडनम ||
- " Amidst all the scriptures and Puranas, know that statement of Vyasa to be true, that doing good to others conduces to merit, and doing harm to them leads to sin. "...Is there any sex-distinction in the Atman (Self) ? Out with the differentiation between man and woman - all is Atman! Give up the identification with the body, and stand up ! Say, " Asti, Asti "- Everything is ! - cherish positive thoughts. By dwelling too much upon " Nasti, Nasti " - " It is not! It is not ! " (negativism), the whole country is going to ruin ! " 
Soham, Soham, Shivoham "- " I am He ! I am He ! I am Shiva ! " What a botheration! In every soul is infinite strength, and should you turn yourselves into cats and dogs by harbouring negative thoughts ? Who dares to preach negativism? Whom do you call weak and powerless ? say " Shiivoham, Shivoham " -"- I am Shiva ! I am Shiva !"
- marriage is the truest goal for 99% of the human race, and they will live the happiest life as soon as they have learn t and are ready to abide by the eternal lesson- that we are bound to bear and forbear and that life to every one must be a compromise.
Believe me, dear Harriet (Miss Harriet Hale), perfect life is a contradiction in terms. Therefore we must always expect to find things not up to our highest ideal. Knowing this, we are bound to make the best of every thing. From what I know of you, you have the calm power which bears and forbears to a great degree, and  therefore I am safe to prophesy that your married life will be very happy.
...The best I can do in the circumstances is to quote from Kalidasa's Shakuntla, where rishi kanva gives his benediction to Shakuntla on the eve of her departure to her husbands place- " May you always enjoy the undivided love of your husband, helping him in attaining all the that is desirable in this life, and when you have seen your children's children,
and the drama of life is nearing its end, may you help each other in reaching that infinite ocean of Existence, Knowledge, and Bliss(सत्- चित्-आनन्द ); at the touch of whose waters all distinction melt away and we are all one ! }
( His letter dated 17th Sept 1896)    

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